We have been exploring the emotion of anger in this series of blog posts. Over the past few weeks, we have looked at anger as a messenger, presenting us with vital wisdom and information, and as a catalyst, prompting us to create change when needed. Last week we looked at…

Thus far in this series about anger, we have looked at the way betrayal creates anger, and how important it is to slow down and allow ourselves to receive the messages our anger is trying to send. …

In the same way that anger is a messenger, it is also a catalyst. Merriam-Webster defines a catalyst as “an agent that provokes or speeds significant change or action.” In other words, anger lets us know that something needs to change. …

Anger is the emotional response that moves through our bodies when we are faced with injustice, betrayal, or violation. …

First comes discovery of sexual betrayal. Then comes anger. Anger does not arrive gently or slowly. It roars in like a flash flood, sweeping everything up in its path, uncontrolled and uncontained. Anger roils through us, erupting from our bodies, shocking those around us and even shocking ourselves. When I…

While our attachment style plays a huge role in how we balance our need for connection and independence within our relationships, they also significantly impact our sexual expression. Bowlby described adult relationships as the intertwining of three distinct systems: the attachment system, the caretaking system and the sexuality systems. …

Last week we looked at the two fundamental human needs that we all have: our need for an independent sense of self and our need to feel closely connected and bonded to others. We explored the way that individuals who have a secure attachment style balance these two competing needs…

In any relationship, our two most significant human needs compete with one another and create tension. These two human needs are: Our need for an independent sense of self. Our need to feel closely connected and bonded to others. All human relationships form a dance where the need for a…

There are many ways that sexuality can go awry for us as individuals and couples. We can experience a range of sexual functioning issues such as erectile dysfunction or vaginismus. We can experience periods where we struggle to find our sexual desire or find our sexual desire is pre-occupying. We…